It finally hit me the other day. I am an adult. Not sure why it took so long. Maybe it is because I spent most of my 20s in school. Then I got married, but my husband was in school. We were both fortunate to have a lot of help from our families to get us through this time. Now we have both been working full-time for a year and we bought a house. But even then, it still didn't hit me until last week.
Realizing I was officially grown up was a combination of things really. Getting ready to paint the place I live for the first time in my life. Turning 31 and being married for almost 3 years (my longest relationship ever BTW). Working a job I really enjoy and starting to strategize a true career path. Becoming financially independent. Getting "ma'amed" at the grocery store on a regular basis. Having more friends with babies than not. Having my Mom come visit and stay in our guest-room. Having more combined student debt than our mortgage. (Ouch) Owing a crap-ton of money to the IRS. Yes, this one hurt the team a bit. But I am thankful that for the first time we were fortunate enough to earn enough money to make this a reality.
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It's kind of like when you are in elementary school the high schoolers seemed so much older, bigger and cooler. And then when you got to high school you didn't really feel that much older or cooler. Hopefully you were bigger. Well that's how I always felt about being an adult. They seemed so old. They had their shit together. They drank martinis straight-up. They didn't laugh at fart jokes. I don't feel old, certainly don't have my shit together, still think straight vodka tastes like nail polish remover and laugh just as hard at fart jokes as I did when I was 12. Actually, I may laugh even hard now.
Yet clearly, like it or not, I am officially a grown-up. And you know what? I like it. Even though I am older and have more responsibilities, there are parts of me that never have to grow up. I don't have to be that boring old person I envisioned in high school. I can just be me.
So. When did you first realize you were an adult?